I've been hurt, bamboozled, betrayed, lied to, and made a fool of. Things happen, life happens and no one is exempt from any of it. But, we are in control of how we let things affect us and make us feel. We are in charge of whether or not we allow things to fester in our hearts and corrupt us, or if we decide to show love and be a forgiving person.
It's all a choice, and it's all up to you.
My journey with forgiveness has been a tough one and I can admit that. I'm typically the type of person who says things along the lines of, "I just don't understand. I wouldn't do/say that to anyone, so why would someone do that to me?" Though that statement seems logical (in my mind), it's really not in some ways. I'm basically saying, because i do things a certain way, others should do unto me the same. Wrong. We're all different and have different beliefs. Just because i wouldn't do or say something doesn't mean it's off limits to anyone else.
Forgiveness is an act of love. I also feel it's one of the most fervent forms of love because of the amount of maturity and honesty it takes to do so. I forgive because it makes me feel good. I forgive because it releases stress and the burden of whatever person or situation that was at hand. I forgive because i deserve peace.
If you're currently in an awkward space with trying to forgive or are just having trouble letting go of ill feelings towards someone, try this little exercise i have below. From working through my issues and being real with my thoughts and how I allow things to take a toll on me, I found myself in a much better space; i truly felt like i can tackle this beast that is forgiveness.
This is similar to meditating, but you're not going to be focusing on your breathing so much. You're going to be more in tune with your thoughts through chanting things out and just being in a relaxed space, preferably in solitude.
-Sit in a quiet space, same as you would if you were meditating. You can light a candle and have calming music playing if you'd like.
-Try saying these few things out to start with, then you can build on these and make it more personal:
1) I am a forgiving being.
2) Love flows endlessly and abundantly throughout me at all times.
3) I am full of love and joy and have no space to harbor any ill feelings.
4) I love me so much and only want the best for myself.
Now, you don't have to already be a forgiving person to say #1. That's the whole idea. You're speaking it into existence-- that's what you want. You want to be more forgiving, loving, and able to let go and move on peacefully for self. When saying or writing out affirmations, always do so as if everything you're saying is in the present. No matter how far off it is or how extreme it seems, do it. Watch changes occur within your thought process and as a result of that, your life as well.
Do you struggle with trying to be a more forgiving person? Why? What do you think is holding you back?
peace and blessings,