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Nine Self Love Affirmations to Encourage + Inspire You

Self love isn’t just about affirmations.

It’s not about all the beauty and glory you might see plastered across social media platforms. Self love and care is hard work. It’s dirty work and it’s uncomfortable but worth it. If you’re experiencing true growth and self improvement, it’s bound to be a little painful.

Affirmations are a good way to remind yourself just how powerful and amazing you are. Life gets difficult and sometimes reassurance is needed in order keep you on track. Remember, you’re a boss. You’re that B*TCH. I personally love writing down and reciting affirmations out loud—not only when I’m in the midst of a crisis and completely losing my shit BUT also when everything is all good. For me, doing so makes even the best day a little brighter. Think of it as extra sprinkles for the free on your favorite sundae on a sunny day. Pretty much gets no better.

As cliche as it sounds, speaking positively to yourself over your life in the midst of havoc WILL make a difference. Almost a week ago, my spirits were extremely low. I was in a terrible mood, pissed off, mad, mean…just a mess! After I got over myself and let the anger pass, I finally decided to be nice to myself. I said a couple of my favorite affirmations over and over and over. I was almost immediately immersed in gratitude because at that moment, I started thinking about all the good things in my life. Perspective really is everything… of course, when you’re pissed, you’re not trying to think about no damn perspective. Trust, I know. It was hard to pull myself out that rut but I did it. You can too!

pics taken by  Laiken Joy

pics taken by Laiken Joy

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball

These are just a couple of my favorite things to say to self when I need a little extra encouragement. Some might be familiar to you already, while others could easily be added to you list:

-I’m worthy of love and happiness.

-My life is a gift as I will treat it as such.

-I am capable. I have the ability to do anything I want.

-I am enough. (This is my favorite affirmation EVAAAAA)

-I attract love in the highest form possible. I radiate love and I’m grateful for the loving individuals in my life.

-I embrace optimism.

-I adore all parts of me. The good, bad and ugly. I work diligently but carefully to improve the things I want to change.

-I’m surrounded with love and I exude positivity and good vibes in all that I do.

-I am in full control of my destiny. I face each day with a clear head and humble spirit, ready for whatever comes my way.

So ladies and gents, as we approach a new month and year, focus heavily on making sure you’re right within. Do what you need to keep your spirits high so you can get the most out of this life. You deserve so ACT LIKE IT!!!!!! :)

peace and blessings,

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A Full Life Detox: Benefits + Three Ways to Make it Happen

Of course, a week or so of trading in processed foods for healthier options will do the body good, but sometimes we need to do more than flush out toxins in our bodies. We need to cut dead ends and get rid of things in our lives, period. Yes, even those things we contemplate about but still hold on to. A full life detox actually sounds overwhelming...ly good. LOL. I mean, think about it! If focusing on dieting and exercise over a few days can make your system feel better, how in the world do you think taking that same mindful approach to the rest of your life will be?!

The thought of undergoing anything similar to a life detox hit me all out the blue one day last week. I remember I was backing out of my parking spot at home and I just thought to myself how I needed to shake stuff up in my life. I wanted to do different things, feel better and more free, feel less restricted, etc. I couldn't quite put it into words at the time, but I soon got it together though: ISSA FULL LIFE DETOX, BOO.

1. DECLUTTER. Yes, even those water bottles riding shotty in your car. Throw them in the recycle bin. Throw away anything unnecessary that you consistently come in contact with. Be it in your car, your office, your room; get rid of the clutter. Less stuff in the way equals a much clearer mind.

2. DISCONNECT + GO ON A SOCIAL MEDIA HIATUS. Orrrrr, just limit your usage. If you normally find yourself refreshing Twitter then heading back to Instagram, then Facebook and Snapchat just because, choose just one to "stay in the know" with if you must. From there, go cold turkey. Trust me, time away from social media is so freeing and you'd be surprised with how much more you could get accomplished. Social media will have you scrolling and scrolling and before you know it, it's the next day. NOPE! I mentioned the importance of disconnecting on my blog before, so of course I had to bring it up again here. Don't become a slave to any of your devices, especially your phone. Disconnecting is vital because it allows you to be more in tune with self and your inner thoughts. Instead of constantly checking your phone, journal or read. Pick up on new hobbies that require you to be present. The distance from your device will contribute to a fresh mindset.

3. SWITCH UP YOUR DIET. Add. More. Greens. I feel like y'all knew this was coming. I've found myself trading in my yummy egg and cheese breakfast sandwiches and hashbrowns for a hearty smoothie or steel cut oats in the morning. This happens most days, but I still like to indulge every now and then. It's about balance. Just try to add in more nutritious foods and focus on making better choices. Skip fried and opt for grilled. Get the salad instead (ugh I know the struggle) and drink more water. A bunch of little changes can set you up for success on a larger scale.

There are tonnsssss of ways you can go about doing a full life detox, but these are just a few things I've done. In order to really live our best lives, we have to slow down and take things away that aren't serving us anymore. Oh the joy of being self aware!

peace and blessings,

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Feeling Lonely? Read This...

Loneliness is and always has been the central and inevitable experience of every man.
— Thomas Wolfe

I always roll my eyes at the accuracy behind the saying: "When it rains it pours" because ugh. Why is it so true? Ain't no light drizzle when things get hectic and there definitely aren't any breaks when it comes down to feeling lonely. 

We all have those moments that hit when we feel helpless, lost, scared and most importantly--completely alone. It's an empty feeling that leaves what feels like just a little room for reinforcements. What's worse is that the feeling can be crippling to the point where it seems as though the storm will never end. 

These past few weeks, I've been experiencing a series of scattered showers in my life. I say that because things we're okay, then good, stuff got a lot better (praise Him), then they got absolutely shitty. Repeat. Rinse and repeat. That's the most accurate way I can describe it.

My emotions seemed to be on a nonstop rollercoaster. I found myself constantly annoyed with the inconsistency of how I was feeling and I really had the hardest time trying to figure out what was causing all of this. I ended up seriously plowing through my feelings on the surface trying to get to the root. Though I'm pretty good about looking on the bright side most times, these past few weeks really got it out of me. I cried, shut people out, spent even more time alone than I usually would; at its peak, this was a shit show in the purest form. I was disappointed in myself for allowing temporary situations to get me all worked up, but then I remembered that it's okay to not be okay and work through your emotions the best way you know how. I learned so much about myself and with time and prayer, I figured out what the problem was: I felt lonely.

I started with something very simple as a means to overcome feeling so down. It might sound silly to some of y'all, but I took my ass to sleep. YES, sleep. Bed. When I look back, I was burnt out, tired, stressed and I wasn't giving myself the basic stuff I know I need like ample rest. Another thing I did was write out any and everything (literally everything) that could've thrown my mood off. What exactly was causing me to feel so lonely? Making a truthful and transparent list made a huuuugeeee difference for me. Seeing things on paper helps in any other situation, so this one was necessary too.

Navigating through your emotions is always a challenge, but it's rewarding when you do the work and find yourself in a better space. You feel so bad ass for stepping up to the plate to handle business, then that feeling is amplified once you start to see progress. 

If you’re currently in a lonely space, please understand that it’s just a feeling and not your reality. You’re bigger and better than whatever it is that has you down in the dumps. It’s hard to do in the moment, but staying focused on better days is something that helped me out..A LOT. Nothing in this life good or bad lasts forever, so I found comfort in the "storm" and just waited for it to pass. In the midst of my tears, I didn't fail to remind myself of just how temporary the situation was.

Show yourself some love, too. I know that when I start to feel down, I tend to neglect self care and doing little things that I know will lift my spirits. I just want to mope and slump and be a big ball of emotions. LOL that's not where it's at, y'all. Focus on the things you love about yourself. Spend time showing gratitude towards every good thing you've got in your life and you'll start to feel better. Though the time frame varies from person to person, it WILL happen if you believe it will. You've got the power. You've always had the power. If you're reading this, I love you. Don't let loneliness keep you down.

peace and blessings,

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