How to Motivate Yourself When Things Are Off

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No matter who you are or what you do, you’re bound to run into those moments when you’re just not motivated. Those times when the idea of doing nothing but being wrapped up in some warm bedsheets sounds like a dream (thee dream) is unavoidable and they can creep up on us without warning, making us feel inadequate, lazy, etc. Sometimes this happens more often than we would like but we have to keep pushing because responsibilities and real life don’t stop for us. We have a list of things we can’t avoid because we have deadlines to meet. We have people depending on us. But if one were to take a little peek into the cluster fuck of confusion we’re experiencing internally, they’d see we’re not fit to perform at our best. cues tiny violins.

Usually when things are “off” for me creatively, I step away from whatever it is I’m working on until I feel sprouts of inspiration again. I don’t pressure myself to make “magic”. I look at it like this; the whole purpose of creating (for me) is for it to be fun and fulfilling. If things aren’t lining up in that moment, I can’t beat myself up over it. It took me some time to get to this point but I truly feel a sense of peace now that I’ve learned to go with the flow and not let the very natural thing such as not feeling motivated 24/7 bog me down.

“What about when you lack motivation professionally with tasks you can’t just let sit until you feel inspired?”

If you’ve reached a point at work where the thought of mandatory projects or everyday responsibilities makes you cringe, there are a few things you can do to remedy the disinterest. Let’s take me for example: I was having the hardest time at work around this time last month. I lacked enthusiasm and I was in this constant state of annoyance when it came to…working lol. It was a mess and each day seemed to bring on a new set of struggles. Bottom line was that I had to adapt to what was happening because there was no running. I had to get intentional about getting out of that rut because fighters fight…period. If you’re reading this, I believe you’re a fighter too. So c’mon, lets do this. You got it! (This is me being your virtual cheerleader so you might as well embrace it!)


If you’re like me, when you’re really bothered, it’s difficult to focus on what’s right. You’re wrapped up in the problem at hand. Please realize that this is just a phase and how you get through it is up to you (because you WILL get through it). In that initial moment of feeling a lack of motivation, think about what could’ve brought you to this point. Be honest with yourself and think about what could’ve been a trigger. Instead of complaining, be driven to find solutions; that alone will improve your mood and help you get back on track. As cliche as it sounds, the power of the mind is something serious. Think it and it shall be.

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.
— Confucious

Give yourself some time

YOU GUESSED IT. TAKE A BREAK. STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND BREATHE. I don’t know why I used to feel like if I shut down shop for any amount of time, that would cause everything around me to go haywire. When you think about it, you’d actually be worse off if you force yourself to do shit you’re not in headspace thats conducive to any type of real results. Trust me on this one, relax. Take some time for self then get back in the swing of things when you’re feeling better.

eliminate distractions

I think most of the times that I find myself truly unmotivated, a direct cause is the fact that I’m hella distracted. Usually if I can get some damn order in my personal life, that motivation isn’t too far behind. For example, I love to read. Mindful reading requires concentration and the ability to stay focused for an extended period of time. If I can’t sit for 30 minutes to an hour and just read, that’s how I know in some area of my life motivation is lacking. Ah, gotta love self awareness.

turn to your feel-good playlist

Because some songs just make you feel like you’re the baddest, most invincible being known to man. You need the same energy rappers have when they talk about their money and success. Buck that head of yours up and get to work, sis.

look at how far you’ve come

Look at your progress. Look at all the leaps and bounds you’ve made and think back to when you were hoping and praying to be where you are now. Give yourself a pat on the back for what you’ve done and use that as fuel to keep on pushing. The road to whatever the fuck it is you’re trying to achieve isn’t some cakewalk, so definitely remember where you came from. I instantly feel relief and a sense of peace whenever I’m reminded of my own progress. It’s refreshing and humbling and also makes me get out of my own head when things don’t immediately go my way.

peace and blessings,